Co-sleeping is a very controversial topic and I know everyone has their own opinion about it and I respect every family’s choice whether they choose to sleep with their baby or not. I know that there are a lot of mums out there that co-sleep but don’t like to admit it because of the stigma that surrounds the subject and in fear of being judged by other mums.
I don’t want to use this post to list the risks and benefits of co-sleeping as I’m sure if you’re reading this you probably have a good idea of them already. Instead, I want to give an honest account of how we came to co-sleep and why we choose to still do it.
When Arlo was born he slept in his moses basket at night. During the day when he would nap he would often fall asleep in my arms and if I didn’t have to move him into his moses basket, I wouldn’t. Those newborn cuddles were the best ever and I wanted to hang onto those precious moments with him for as long as I could. But during the night he was always fine in his moses basket which was next to our bed. He would wake for his feeds and was quite easy to get back off to sleep again in his moses basket.
When we moved into our own home, he was three months old and was too big for his moses basket. We set up his cot in our room and tried putting him in there at night but he would wake up as soon as I put him down and would become increasingly distressed while I tried to soothe him. It would always result in a cuddle on the bed and he would fall asleep almost straight away. It was from then that our co-sleeping routine began.
I did look into ways to sleep train but I really didn’t like the idea of letting him cry. I know some mums swear by it but it just wasn’t for me. I was just very quick to embrace what he liked to do, and if that was cuddling me to sleep, then I wasn’t about to change that.
My partner also doesn’t mind Arlo being in the bed and actually enjoys being able to cuddle up to him at night as he works full time and he looks at it as getting to spend more time with him.
Like with everything, its about what works for you. Co-sleeping is a choice we’ve made as a family and we are happy with the routine we have established. Arlo is happy and sleeps peacefully next to us (until he wakes for his feed) while I go to sleep knowing my baby is warm and safe next to me.
One thing that motherhood has taught me is to take each day as it comes and cherish every moment and that is why I haven’t thought too much about how long he will sleep in our bed for. Some will say it will become harder to get him into his own bed as he gets older and that might be the case, but every child is different and I am willing to take that risk if it means we all go to bed happy right now.